A “Keep It Real” Talk About Life

Sit down.

We need to talk.

It’s time to get real about this life thing.

This last week, I got bit by what many people call “Real Life,” but what I call “A Dip.”  The bottom fell out of my optimism and the world was dark and grim.  Nothing was going to work, and I was silly for ever thinking it would.

Have you ever been there?  At that place where everything bad anyone ever said seems so sadly true?

I know, I’m usually the go-getter.  I’m the one that keeps people going and always has a smile on her face.

Only sometimes, I’m not.  I’m really not.

I know this is kind of a downer post, but, you know what?  Sometimes this needs to be talked about!  Because I have a hunch that you’ve been there, too.

The Pendulum

Here’s the thing: life (and emotions) are like a pendulum swinging back and forth, back and forth.  You can’t be all the way to one side all of the time.  It’s not possible!  This life is all about experiencing the whole range of emotions, and “happy” is just one.  Eventually, forces will pull the pendulum over to the sad side.

The trick is in remembering that this is a pendulum, and eventually you will swing back.

I try to keep my visits on the sad side of the swinging motion quick, but sometimes that just doesn’t happen.  But whether my time in Sad Land is long or short, I know it will eventually end.

Keeping the Goals

So, what makes it so important to know that it will end?  Because when I am in that state of mind, I always want to ditch my goals.  Instead of being inspiring, they seem silly and lame.  Before I knew about the pendulum, this is when I would completely turn away from my goals and go back to a life of blah.

I’m telling you this, because I want to make sure you don’t give up on your goals!  You have talents and passions for a reason, and a temporary turn in emotion does not mean you need to leave them.  Tell yourself this is only temporary, and you’ll double-check your goals when you’re in a better state of mind.

This can be a lot harder than it sounds!  I mean, I’ll tell you what, I know this can be super-hard.  But my goals only seem ridiculous to me when I’m having a hard time.  When I’m the real me, they seem totally doable and awesome.  So give yourself and your goals some time.

A Supportive Environment

Now that you know this is a natural phase, be sure to put a supportive environment in place.  This can be as simple as having movies and music around that help you cheer up, or it can be as complicated as getting new friends.  It can even mean getting professional help.  You know what?  So be it!  Do what you need to do!  The right environment can make your times feeling sad so much shorter, so you can get back to being awesome again.

Get Back on that Horse

Lastly, I just want to make sure you remember that when the pendulum does swing the other way, pick up those goals again, dust them off, and get going!

They say the number one thing you have to do when a horse bucks you off is to get back on.  If you don’t, you will come to fear horses and never get on one again.  It’s the same here.  You may have been bucked off when it comes to your goals, which makes it all the more important for you to get back on them!  They are not silly or irrational or impractical.  They are your goals, based on your passions and your interests.

Do you know what this world would be like if silly, irrational, or impractical goals always got ditched?  There would be no technology, no sports, no skyscrapers, no bridges, no music, no science, no nothing.  Creating depends on people looking at their lives and thinking, “What if?”

So if you’ve been bumped around and feel low, don’t despair.  This will pass.  You have amazing things to do!  You can do it.  Find an extra person who believes in you this week and add them to your support group.  Keep going.  You’re great!


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  1. Amy Minzghor
    Amy Minzghor says:

    This is fantastic and so timely! Hugs to you and thanks for the pep talk. It is comforting to know that super optimistic people like you still have their down times. Hoping things get better for you soon! Merry Christmas!

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