I Refuse to Believe You’re Lazy,
Part 1

There is one four letter word I hate to use.  It’s so degrading and heavy and makes you feel like you just can’t change anything.  Whether we use it on ourselves or on other people, it basically means, “I just give up!” and I refuse to give up.

The word is L-A-Z-Y.

I don’t believe in it.

No, seriously, I have a hard time believing that anyone is really lazy, because lazy makes it sound like no matter what changes the lazy person will never do what they need to do.  Call me naive, but I have more faith in my fellow humans than that.  I believe that, given the right conditions, flowers grow.  And I believe that, given the right conditions, humans reach their potentials.

What I’ve found is that there are three main things to look at if you’re having trouble doing what needs to be done.  They are:

  1. Knowledge
  2. Motivation
  3. Physical need

This is a big topic, so I’m dividing it up into three posts so I can go nice and deep into how to change your way of thinking so you can be more proactive and never be “lazy” again.

Lack of Knowledge does not mean you’re Lazy

Do you know enough about what needs to be done that you can do it with confidence?  Knowledge is the key to conquering overwhelm.

How To Do It

The first and easiest step is to learn how to do whatever you’re having trouble with.  This could be as quick as a five-minute YouTube video, or as long as taking a college-level class in your community or online.  Whatever it is, look at your options and start learning!  The most successful kids come from homes where their parents love learning new things and share that love with their kids.  Learning is always worth the effort.

Why We Do It

Along with learning how to do something, you may also want to know why we do it.  Learning why tends to keep what we’re learning more in the forefront of our minds and helps us troubleshoot the changes that we need to make in our lives in order to make this task happen.  It’s one thing to say, “I need to exercise and now I know how.” And another to say, “I need to exercise because it releases happy hormones, gives me a stronger heart and lungs, and gives me energy for the kids, and I know how to do it.”

When To Do It

The next thing you’ll want to do is take a good look at your schedule and figure out a time to get it done.  No, seriously, figure out your basic schedule.

What?  You don’t have one?  Seriously, why haven’t you signed up for my courses yet?  They’ll totally help with that.

Anywho, once you get a good grip on how your days typically go, it will be easier to set a time to get your challenging task done.  Some tasks are better done at certain times than others (I mean, it just makes sense that you wash the dishes after they’re dirty, not before, right?).  A good rule of thumb is that mornings are great for intellectual activities, afternoons for physical activities, and evenings for soothing, family based activities (like board games or stories).

Now you can say, “I need to exercise because it releases happy hormones, gives me a stronger heart and lungs, and gives me energy for the kids. I know how to do it and when to do it!”

Set a Game Plan

Knowledge without action is pointless.  Once you know enough to set up a plan of action, do it!  Then carry it out.  By working through your game plan, you’ll be able to see if there’s anything else you need to learn.

Honestly, though, there is always more to learn, because there’s always a better way of doing things.  Make sure that doesn’t stop you, though.  Some people won’t move until they know they can do things perfectly and, you know what? They never move!  You can’t become perfect at something just by learning and thinking about it.  You have to be willing to fail at it, make adjustments, and try again.  You may have to adjust when or how you do things, so don’t be afraid of trying new things.

If you’re having a hard time figuring out a game plan, especially if your challenging task has to do with home management, feel free to contact me and we can set up a time for a free Clarity Call if you haven’t already had one.

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