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I Refuse to Believe You’re Lazy,
Part 2

Welcome to Part 2 of why you are definitely not lazy!  Last time, I covered the importance of knowledge when it comes to getting things done (I mean, seriously, if you don’t know how to do it, you’re likely going to skip it!).  This week, I want to talk about the next thing you need if you find that knowledge isn’t enough.

Because, let’s be honest, sometimes we have tons of knowledge, and we still don’t do anything about it!  We can tell ourselves all the reasons why to do it.  We can explain to others how to get it done.  And yet, here we sit, still not doing anything about it.

So, if you find yourself in this situation, have no fear!  Try this next step and see if it gets you up and going!

The trick is, to find your motivation.

Motivational Need

There are two main ways to motivate yourself.  One is fear, and one is joy.  Extreme opposites, I know.  It’s really the depth of emotion that we’re going for.  You need a heavy dose of emotional involvement to get you up and going.

Now, personally, I hate fear.  Fear is icky, yucky, and not very productive.  I mean, sure, it gets you doing things, but when you’re doing things out of fear you tend to not think straight.  You’ll do things quickly and may make bad decisions that you have to clean up later.  If you get into the habit of doing things out of fear, you lose a lot of the happiness of life and you get addicted to the negative.  Just don’t do it, okay?  Just don’t.

Joy is much better.  For one thing, it makes you feel light and able.  You smile more.  It leads to a healthier brain.  Your decisions are more thought-out and stable (even the crazy ones!), and you get more done while still having energy left over.  There are no adverse side-effects to joy, other than the possibility of annoying people who haven’t discovered how awesome it is yet.  That’s on them.  Poor critters.

Find You Joy

So the first thing you need to do is to remember what makes you happy!  As a mom, this could be pretty difficult.  You’ve spent years so far making everyone else in your family happy and then going to bed exhausted.  Like the old adage says, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.”  The same holds true for things that make you happy.

If you’re having trouble thinking of anything that makes you happy, have no fear!  I have a couple suggestions for you.

Look Back

Remember how things were before kids?  Before you got married even?  What did you like to do back then?  It’s likely that there are things you did then that you would still enjoy now.

Did you go out dancing?  Find your favorite kind of music again!

Did clothes give you a boost?  Take an inventory of your closet!

If you need to, set a bit of a budget to get what you need.  Don’t break the bank, though.  If you need to, try this trick to getting what you need on a budget.

Explore Your Senses

If you’re still struggling a bit, take it one sense at a time.

What are your favorite smells?  Sounds?  Textures?  Tastes?  Sights?

List these on a paper.  Really take time with this.  Think deeply.  Try new things and see what speaks to you.

Add Some Joy

Now that you have a good idea of what makes you happy, see what you can add to the task you need to do.  Remember, we don’t want a sensory conflict.  If you need to fold the laundry, maybe crafts isn’t the best fit.  But music could be!

I met a woman once who said she loved doing the dishes, because her sink was in front of a window with a beautiful view.  When it’s time to do the dishes for her, she lights a candle, enjoys the view, and uses it as her alone time.  It actually regenerates her!  That’s the sort of thing we want to do.  Can you imagine having a hard time getting around to doing the dishes if you knew that was waiting for you?

If you’ve done these steps and you’re still having a hard time, you may want to try my “Happy You, Happy Home” course.  It goes more in depth into what really makes you happy.  When you’re done, you’ll have a good list of what makes you happy, who you are, what you’re good at, and wonderful strategies for helping you feel happy over the little things.  It’s Step 1 in my Foundational Course Series, and for good reason.  No home management will really cut it for you unless it makes you, as an individual, happy.  After all, if you’re not happy, can your family really be happy?  It’s worth it!

And don’t forget to join me next time as we explore the third and last part of what really gets you up and going and un-lazy-like!

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  1. Alysia
    Alysia says:

    This is so timely for me! Last week I was nearly ready to quit everything just so I could figure out, from scratch, if any of it was really something I wanted to be doing or just something I did to keep from disappointing others (fear). I’m feeling better and I didn’t quit everything, but now I’m working to find the joy and the true motivations for doing things that are not fear based reasons. It’s a process but I believe it will be worth it for my attitude make over! Some things may drop out of my life after all, we will see, but if they stay I’m goong to find a joyful reason. Thank you for a second witness.

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